The life that you are living is the cumulative result of the choices you have made. No, you do not have control over the events that occur around you. But whatever happens, you have the power to choose how to proceed. Unfortunately, many do not believe they have this power. Instead, they give up, becoming a passive participant in their own life.
To succeed, you must create the life that you want to have. No one else can do this for you. You may not have made the best choices in the past. But that does not mean you must continue to make bad choices in the future. Only you can change the direction of your life. So, forget about the past and forgive yourself for getting you where you are today. And start today living the life that you want to life.